30's Marriage Modern Practicality

MP: have you ever loved? really love that when lost, all hell breaks loose. like there is nothing more to this life but to end it. but even so.. you choose not to end it. you choose to rather accept it and move on because at the back of your mind, you want to forget about it and hope for the best. that someday, someway, love will again find its way. it is that hope and wish that you strive to be better and perhaps, learn from the experience. so i ask, was it really that true love or deep love you felt before? when you finally moved on and look back and think what a fool it has all been. you anticipate something better. i say, it is all an illusion. nothing is perfect. there will always be holes in every road. so what's the point? what is it all about? so i conclude. ok. i found love. i'll stop there. i'll cement this love. and to that.... there is marriage. so marriage during 30's, that is prime. you have gone over the experiences. and now you spend more of your life savoring it. that's how i see it. and that's why marriage during 30's is a modern practicality...

MW: i agree that it is a modern practicality. i've never seen it in this perspective (livng through experiences in past relationships) though until you mentioned it. i thought it is a modern practicality only because of career decisions and individual growth. "so marriage during 30's, that is prime. you have gone over the experiences. and now you spend more of your life savoring it." i'm all praises to this construction... A comment about past love as an illusion though. I don't think there is such a thing. I think love felt in the past, love outgrown still constitutes the essence of love. the pivotal factor is not the nature of that experience (your question on whether it is love); rather the holes of fulfillment at the time the experience was only in the process of revelation. Once a hole of fulfillment is filled, human nature calls for us to close that chapter in our lives and move on to fill another hole. Nevertheless, the nature of that experience still remains to be love for had it not been love, no hole could have been filled.